To be healthy we have to be discerning. We need to rid ourselves of all the things we have outgrown. If we hold onto what no longer is healthy the new things, opportunities and loves cannot track us down because we will be blocked. If we live holding on, our lives become unsettled, so we have to trust our instincts when choosing to set boundaries. When we become discerning we realize we are responsible for loving and protecting ourselves. No one else can do this for us. Our emotional safety is our business. To become discerning we must look at a confusing decision in this way: If it doesn't feel right, it's NOT right--at least not for you. If you don't feel right about something, pay attention. It is an easy habit to talk yourself into feeling right about something that is no longer right, or to talk yourself out of doing something self-protective due to the fear of loss or rejection. Your insides know. If it doesn't feel good, then it's not right. When we are discerning we are listening, looking, analyzing and paying close attention. Our hearts deserve this kind of love so we can rightfully protect them. If something in your life isn't honoring you, then it simple doesn't deserve a seat at your table. It is healthy to let go. There is no need to compromise your grace, your dignity and your hard fought for self-loving skills for someone or something that does not have your best interest at heart. Have a beautiful Monday.