Feel it to Heal It

Don't be afraid of the pain. Avoiding the pain in your heart does nothing but delay the inevitable. You are stronger than you think you are, and the pain is not as devastating as you think it is. If you'll just take the time to sit with yourself, to nurture yourself through the pain, you will find the most beautiful truth that is banging on the door of your heart. The pain you feel is a knock. Knock. Knock. There is something you should know. Something that will help you overcome. Something brilliant, beautiful and true on the other side of pain. Don't run. Don't hide. Don't medicate. Just accept, love yourself and allow yourself to be. It's your thoughts about the pain that make it so scary. Change your thoughts and embrace where you are--and things that were once really hard for you will become your greatest triumphs. Jenna Ryan

Keep Moving Forward

Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.

If we hold onto what is old and outdated, no longer nurturing, or fulfilling we block our future. It can be hard and painful to let go of what we are used to, but if what we are used to is no longer fulfilling then to stay hoping for fulfillment to return puts us in a lack of movement. Hope becomes our dope. When we move forward we let go of wanting people to become better versions of themselves and we commit to being better versions of ourselves. Changing ourselves is the whole purpose. When life changes we have to believe that great things are about to happen, much greater than what we were living in before. It may not show up immediately but if we commit to loving ourselves, we will be "ready," and the new lock-and-key life matches will present themselves, and we will be so glad we left the life which was too small and constricting for us. We often stay in the old because we can't see that something better will come because after we leave anything we enter in the grey area. For whatever reason, the grey area of uncertainty is very painful for us. Without a focus on loving ourselves, it feels like limbo. When we are here it is simply the space between the old and new. If we commit to making this grey area productive with self-improvement the new amazing things will come to us more quickly. Do your inner work. Leave what is too small. Be brave into the grey area and make your life extraordinary. Love Love Love Yourself!

Sherrie Campbell, Ph.D.

When life is pushing you around...you have to keep on keeping on. Life is supposed to do this to us, and it will happen all throughout life. The expectation that life will someday "even out" is a dangerous thought, as it sets us up for disappointment when our next painful growth opportunity arises. We seem to grow the most when we are in pain, and so as much as it is uncomfortable and we hurt from it, this is always an opportunity to get connected to our spirit, to our resilience, the refinement of who we are and who we want to be. It is healthy for certain time periods to simply shut life down, so we can take inventory on how we are participant, not a victim, in our own pain. When we can see these painful times as "evolvement courses" then we can give our pain a new idea, a new thought, a new purpose. Once we give our pain this new thought, we can get into action. We can get into the action of changing and shifting who we are how we operate in the world. If we are being pushed around by life and we cannot see the end of the pain, we have to get deliberate in our own idea of our pain, change our perspective to forward-moving-progress, so we can rise from our decent. When we rise..there is nothing like it. We rise on all levels. Those who are around us and those whom we have chosen to leave will get to see what it is like for someone to get knocked down..but who will get right back up. Focus on Getting Up! There is only one way in which time moves and that is forward so if you don't get up, you are obstructing life's flow...if there is no flow you cannot heal. So, get up, get going, look within, don't blame...refine yourself. Love yourself facebook...that is what it is all about.

You Create the World You Live In

I found this on the instagram of a really amazing Yogi. yoga_girl - Funny thing is, it is my thoughts almost exactly... It's what I wanted to say, she said it now so I don't have to. This is true!!! 

Keys to Having a Good Life

You create the world you live in. The people you encounter on your path are there not by chance, but because you brought them to you. The experiences you are having and the situations you are facing are here because you made it so. You are a powerful being with the possibility to manifest anything you like, but most of us do this unconsciously. (I say, by default because we don't realize our own power...)

Depending on what you focus your thoughts and your energy on, your life situation will change - for better or for worse. What does your life look like right now? Are you at peace and content with where you are? Are you manifesting a life of love? Or are you manifesting a life of fear? By becoming aware of your thoughts and realizing the power you have over your life situation, you can start to manifest good instead of bad. 

Focus on what you want to create instead of what you lack. It's very logical - by thinking negative thoughts (I am not good enough/I don't have enough/I am unhappy) you will have a negative outlook on life, thus attracting more negative experiences into your space. It's a viscous cycle, and you need to stop it right away. Begin from where you are. 

 There is beauty in your life. Connect to it. Be positive and grateful for the blessings you have. Be here. Don't dwell in the past. Stop thinking in terms of "should have" "could have" or "it would have been better if" - You are where you are! You cannot change what was in the past. Why focus on something you cannot possibly do anything about? What you can do, however, is change your present. It's here, where you are. This is it. Life is now. 

Change your life situation by being compassionate, by staying positive, by forgiving, by focusing on love and light and space and gratitude and abundance and happiness. What you direct your energy towards, you attract more of. Meditate on the magical, breathtaking beauty of the world and soon that magic will be part of your everyday life. So. 

What are you manifesting today?

You Already Have It

The peace you want, the joy you want, the contentment you want, the attention you want, the affection you want, the love you want--you already have it. It's all inside of you. If you've ever had the ability to feel blissfully in love, that feeling is still inside of you. If you've ever had the the experience of feeling utterly safe and content, you still have that too--on the inside of you. Every feeling, every state, every way you want to feel is inside of you...

You don't have to wait for the perfect circumstances to tap into these feelings within your heart. The only reason you are not experiencing ultimate bliss is because you've told yourself you can't have it. You've put restrictions on these feelings, exalting some outside accoutrements and denigrating others.

Sure, certain things in our lives bring great joy, peace and satisfaction, such as success and intimacy, but the feelings that such states invoke are inside of you and in your control. You can tap into such feelings if you free your mind to experience what you want RIGHT NOW.

Everything is a projection. The manifestation of our lives is a projection of what we allow. Our mindset, beliefs and thoughts frame our world. We assign value to different states and occurrences. If we want to tap into blissful feelings today, we must only change what we tell ourselves about the values of external forces. We can learn to be joyous in everything, even in our trials. After all, we are in control of our thoughts, and we are in control of the values we place on the input.

Facing reality is paramount. Much dissatisfaction comes from wishing things are different. Reality is what it is, we can't control it. We can, however, control how we react to it, and when we change ourselves to appreciate what is, we can also assign value to that which is. We have control of what's inside of us.

When we live peacefully, hopefully and gratefully in our present reality, things around us WILL start to change. Our vibrational patterns, or level of faith rises when we are free from discontent. As our energy rises to higher levels of knowing, we begin to attract things in our life that match where we are, almost as if by magic.

Your life is where it is because of what you're telling yourself about reality. You tell yourself you must have this or that in order to be happy, so you stay sad today. When you live like this, all the Universe brings to you is more of the same sadness. It brings you what you want, and obviously if you're telling yourself your sad because you don't have what you want, then sadness is what you're choosing. We choose our external circumstances by the thoughts and subsequent feelings we have about our existing situation. Be sure to *Think Up* to *Rise Up* to the next level.

You have everything you need to live the life you've always dreamed of... the only problem is getting out of your own way, using insight to see where you're drawing negativity to yourself with your thoughts. It's time to be free of all the conditioning of negative nay-sayers. You are in control, your perception is your reality. You create your world and choose how to think and feel.

Realize your power. Realize who you are. No, it's not easy to face reality, but the sooner you do, the sooner you can master yourself and create your own existence. Everything you want, everything you need, everything you ever wanted is already on the inside of you. You create your world. You are creating your world right now! Take time to gain insight as to how your thoughts, and your understanding of how you control your thoughts make or break your life. You are in control. You create your reality.

It's Nothing Personal

It is not your fault when someone treats you badly. If someone rejects you, dishonors you, ignores you, yells at you, abuses you, abandons you or puts you down it has NOTHING to do with you.

“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

― Anaïs Nin

If you have a wounded heart, you may have a tendency to put people on pedestals, to idealize them and feel as though they're better than you. You may also try to get other people to fill in the blank spaces of your life, to give you worth where you feel like you have none. Then, when your "idol" devalues you or refuses to reciprocate your affection, you take it personally thinking that it's your fault he or she isn't good to you. You feel like you're bad and worthless just because the one you idolize isn't treating you right.

This simply is not true!

We are our reality, it's all a projection from within, so we see things as we are. What we don't like in us we will project in others in order to criticize them, to reject them, instead of dealing with it within us, but until we do it, we will not really know ourselves.

~ Paulo Renato ~

Healthy people with high self esteem are generally good to others. They don't go around devaluing people, they are open not closed, accepting and not rejecting. When you encounter someone who is selfish, rude and grandiose, it is not your fault. It does not mean you deserve it. You can't help the fact that she is a jerk! You can't control people that much!  Rude people exist. Hurting people hurt people. Just because you come across a hurting person who treats you badly and breaks your heart doesn't mean that you deserve it.

• It has nothing to do with your forehead wrinkles.
• It has nothing to do with your unkempt car.
• It has nothing to do with your muffin top.
• It has nothing to do with the fact that you're older.
• It has nothing to do with your style.
• It has nothing to do with your weight.
• It has nothing to do with your freckles.

So often when we are rejected or hurt by another, we think it's something specific in us that is unlovable. We think (hopefully we snap out of it fast) that we need to mold ourselves into being what the hurtful person needs so as to be found worthy in their eyes. If we are found worthy by this person we idealize, then we mistakenly think we'll be worthy ourselves. Maybe if we go on a diet, do more yoga, wear higher heels, maybe then he will love me, be nice to me and see how valuable I am.

Hogwash!

Not only do we take it personally by thinking we are inherently flawed, but we also try to control the other person's perception of who we are by changing ourselves to suit what we think they want. This is the ultimate betrayal of self. You give yourself away and abandon who you are when you try to control others by changing into what you think they want you to be.

READ MY LIPS: It's not personal! It is not your fault. You're not too fat because someone doesn't love you. You're not rejected because you have a beer belly. Even if someone says that to you, the problem is inside their own heart, and they're just using superficial reasons as justification to abuse you. Trying to change yourself to make another person start treating you right is overstepping your boundaries. It simply cannot be done. You don't have that much power.

All you control is what's in YOUR DOMAIN. You can influence another person, but ultimately, people do not change unless they see the light and decide to change. Trying to change and control others is a huge reason for sadness and dismay. We need to spend more time tending to ourselves and controlling our own reactions. We need boundaries between what we feel we are responsible for in relation to others. We are responsible only for ourselves.

If you encounter a person with a character flaw, someone who puts you down, abuses you, withdraws or refuses to reciprocate the relationship on equal ground, this is not your fault. Not everyone is capable of a mature, equal and fulfilling relationship. Instead of taking it personally, face reality. Realize that what other people do and how they treat you is a reflection on them--not you.