100 Things Self Love is Not

1. Self love is not on the internet. 
2. Self love is not in the approval of other people.
3. Self love is not in an abusive relationship.
4. Self love is not in caving to the whims of others.
5. Self love is not bashing yourself.
6. Self love is not criticizing yourself.
7. Self love is not ignoring your intuition.
8. Self love is not hiding your feelings.
9. Self love is not being a doormat. 
10. Self love is not giving more than you take.
11. Self love is not sabotaging your success.
12. Self love is not feeling ashamed.
13. Self love is not ignoring your needs.
14. Self love is not sacrificing your life.
15. Self love is not trying to get people to like you.
16. Self love is not arguing your truth with someone.
17. Self love is not making light of abuse.
18. Self love is not pretending not to care.
19. Self love is not shutting yourself off from others.
20. Self love is not manipulating others.
21. Self love is not controlling to others.
22. Self love is not being the victim.
23. Self love is not being one-down or one-up 
24. Self love is not allowing yourself to be abused.
25. Self love is not keeping silent when you need to say something.
26. Self love is not trying to prove that you're worthy.
27. Self love is not looking good on the outside.
28. Self love is not perfection.
29. Self love is not obsessing about another person.
30. Self love is not being addicted to substances.
31. Self love is not clinging onto another person.
32. Self love is not rejecting yourself for your flaws.
33. Self love is not denying your feelings.
34. Self love is not pretending to be happy all the time.
35. Self love is not putting on a mask.
36. Self love is not performing for others.
37. Self love is not desiring someone who hurts you.
38. Self love is not selling yourself short.
39. Self love is not settling for crumbs for others.
40. Self love is not falling in love with a fantasy.
41. Self love is not ignoring your family to gain approval.
42. Self love is not neglecting your children to feed your addictions.
43. Self love is not considering yourself unworthy of care.
44. Self love is not letting yourself go.
45. Self love is not overeating.
46. Self love is not over doing anything.
47. Self love is not disconnecting from your truth.
48. Self love is not ignoring red flags in others.
49. Self love is not telling yourself you're not worthy.
50. Self love is not going down a path that's unhealthy.
51. Self love is not failing to stop yourself from being abused.
52. Self love is not staying with someone who hurts you.
53. Self love is not being addicted to a person.
54. Self love is not treating other people badly.
55. Self love is not isolating yourself from the world.
56. Self love is not not trusting anyone. 
57. Self love is not not reaching out for help when you need it.
58. Self love is not forgetting who you are.
59. Self love is not giving up yourself in your relationships.
60. Self love is not being a victim.
61. Self love is not giving up too soon.
62. Self love is not using your anger to control others.
63. Self love is not walking away from every conflict.
64. Self love is not hiding from your problems.
65. Self love is not living in chaos. 
66. Self love is not being attracted to unavailable people.
67. Self love is not staying when you should go.
68. Self love is not being needy.
69. Self love is not clinging to other people.
70. Self love is not talking bad about others.
71. Self love is not focusing on another person.
72. Self love is not watching television.
73. Self love is not being mean to your inner child.
74. Self love is not hating your life so far.
75. Self love is not looking back on your life with disdain.
76. Self love is not thinking you don't need anyone.
77. Self love is not destroying your relationships.
78. Self love is not being addicted to shopping.
79. Self love is not overspending.
80. Self love is not being out-of-control.
81. Self love is not using others.
82. Self love is not being un-confident.
83. Self love is not giving up too soon.
84. Self love is not thinking you're not good enough.
85. Self love is not being afraid of intimacy.
86. Self love is not afraid of people you think are better than you.
87. Self love is not ranking people.
88. Self love is not comparing yourself to others.
89. Self love is not thinking you're less than anyone.
90. Self love is not thinking you're better than anyone.
91. Self love is not thinking you cannot go on without someone.
92. Self love is not harming yourself.
93. Self love is not risky behaviors.
94. Self love is not smoking.
95. Self love is not avoiding yourself.
96. Self love is not not asking for help.
97. Self love is not not forgiving yourself.
98. Self love is not beating yourself up.
99. Self love is not ignoring people who love you.
100. Self love is not denying yourself happiness.