How to Deal with Hater Raids and Cancel Vultures and Woke Mobs in 2021

I am working on a process for dealing with Haters in the media, social media and in real life. Haters are people who disagree with you, don't like you, are offended by you, and they are trying with all their power to distract you and to cause you to doubt yourself. A hater wants you to give up, go away and vanish. A hater wants to crush you to a powder. The more you shine, the more the hater wants to stomp out your light. The hater is filled with envy, bitterness, resentment and likely misinformation about who you are and what you do. 

Think of an online hater as a stalker. Haters ARE stalkers and they are harassing you, and potentially harming your business. Unfortunately, due to the current political climate, the internet is becoming increasingly hostile. Haters are a fact of life when you are famous, infamous, creative, or doing anything outside-of-the-box. 

The goal of the hater is to stop you, so your goal in dealing with haters is to NOT let them stop you, distract you or cause you to doubt yourself. Haters may also want you to conform to their way of thinking, feeling and believing about the world. Many haters are adverse to independent thought. Whatever the motivation of the hater, the same rules apply. Following is a list I'm creating for dealing with haters day-to-day on social media. 

This list may become more important as the communist-style social ranking system is implemented in the United States and throughout the world. This social ranking system will grant haters more power than ever to destroy your reputation, your business and your peace. People who are wise will realize that you are special if you are being attacked by haters. It is a compliment--albeit a very annoying compliment--to be attacked relentlessly by haters. If haters hate you, it means you are doing something right.

• Never, ever, ever respond to haters unless they have a legitimate concern about your work.
  
• Do not fight with haters on any platform (new rule) I know it's difficult, but stick to this.
  
• Do have united front. Do not answer haters without connecting with me and we will be creating
  a united narrative that we want to distribute on my terms.
  
• Do not let haters distract you or take you off track, or keep you from producing your shows, music, content and message.
  
• Do not perform for haters in any way shape or form.
• Do not create content for haters.
  
• Ignore haters, give them the silent treatment, go NO CONTACT with haters. 
• Act like they do not exist.
  
• Mentally reframe hatred from people on the internet. Take all hate as a compliment and use it to increase your reach and gain notoriety.
  
• If you are getting a ton of hate, this means you are doing something right. 

 https://www.notsalmon.com/2015/03/21/why-you-have-haters/

 

 

Anatomy of a Hater: How to Spot People Who Are Jealous of You

It's been said that, "Success breeds success," and this is certainly true. However, there's another side of success that is not talked about as often but occurs just as much and that is....Success also breeds resentment and jealousy.

As you rise in life and elevate your game, it's important to remember that no matter how well-intentioned, helpful or pleasant you are that there are some people who won't want to see you shine. In fact they are hoping to see you fall. So much so that they will try to dismiss you, diminish your achievements, pretend they don't see you rising, assassinate your character, discredit you, talk about you behind your back, use innuendos and sarcasm to try to get at you or attempt to eat from your plate without putting in the work to make the meal.

A jealous person won't come out and tell you that they are jealous of you, nor will they admit it to anyone else. Why? Their pride and ego won't allow it. Instead their jealousy will show up in the form of resentment, subtle put downs, constant criticism, open hostility, imitation, gossiping, playing down your accomplishments, an insatiable need to try and one-up you, not inviting you to certain events for fear that you will outshine them, not wanting you to come around their other friends for fear that their friends may actually see that you are a stand up kind of person and want to become your friend too, waiting on the sidelines wishing for your demise and last but not least...kicking you when you fall.

Jealousy comes in many forms. Sometimes a person will be jealous of your success or accomplishments, your persistence in pursuing your dreams, your charisma, your happiness and peace of mind, your faith walk, your strength, looks, resources, business savvy, your influence, your marriage, your family relationships, network of people you know or your ability to bounce back from adversity. And jealous people can exist everywhere - at work, in church, within your family, with your friends and even within your online social networks. See the thing is, when you have a deeper sense of self-esteem, resilience and purpose, it can intimidate others and cause them to resent you, often without even knowing why. Be that as it may, you cannot allow other people's issues with you to cause you to play your life small.

Jealousy is like a parasite. Once you allow it into your space it literally sucks the life right out of you. This is why it is key that the moment you encounter jealousy you cut it off at the head. Don't give jealous people any room in your life to impact you, any space in your head to discourage you or any power to rob you of your peace, purpose or destiny. Simply hold your head up high and continue to do you.

Whether you are dealing with a person who is ignorant, insecure, malicious or miserable, the best thing that you can do when a jealous person comes your way is to put as much distance as possible between you and that person. You cannot afford to allow jealous people to block your blessings and rain on your parade. An overtly jealous person can be easily identified, as he will single you out for competition in any and every endeavor you undertake. What is more dangerous is the covert jealous person who smiles in your face while shoving an ice pick in your back. This kind of person sits back and waits for the opportune time to badmouth you on the low or set up traps to trip you up along the way.

Haters: Boxing With Shadows

Haters: Boxing with Shadows #psychology #philosophy #haters

I think haters are haters because they cannot see the truth. They don't realize the beauty of who they are. They cannot tolerate their own shadows, their own perceived badness, so they project their negative attributes onto others, releasing the tension they cannot bare. They point to others and aggressively attack them with intention to harm. Their goal is to inoculate their victims with fear, to maintain equality, regulate their emotions, exert control over their environment and boost their own self esteem--however tenuous.

It's true what Carl Gustav Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” And everything that others are irritated about can lead us to a better understanding of them too. The things that others are irritated about give insight into their hearts and minds, telling of their level of personal enlightenment, growth and maturity.

We're all at different places. Some choose to step out of the transaction; to live in real-time, facing reality with the accompanying pain, and reigning over their own cognitive bias. Courageous souls in the midst of overcoming weaknesses, embracing the obstacles, on the path to finding the beauty of truth that lies like buried treasure beneath their own defenses.

Others stay on the lower plane of finger pointing, fault-finding, with an outer-locus of control, missing the milestones of growth until they whither like a rosebud failing to bloom.

And that is, growth. Growth to Love. And I believe we are all growing, if we allow it; to a greater place of love and acceptance of ourselves and others. I believe love is the ultimate force in the universe, the force that holds it all together. Any time we feel need to lash out at others or downgrade another person, it seems to me a diversion, or distraction from the true essence of love. Our true purpose on this earth is to learn how to let love flow purely through us. #philosophy

It is the blocking of love that harms us. It is the denial of reality that leads to pain. Focusing outwardly is ground warfare. Rising above the fleshly antics of the desperate ego's attempt to gain approval is the road less traveled. Using our cerebral cortex to rise above our instinctive lower-brain leads to maturity, individuation and inner peace.

We must learn to love the beauty in others, the truth in others, authenticity. We must support one another as we reach for the understanding of truth and love. It is an illusion that we are separate. We're all connected, joined in myriad ways--locked for better or worse--on this planet together. We need each other.

We must fight the battle in our own hearts against jealousy and envy of the good fortune of others, because, it is your own heart that either allows or repels the blessing in your own life. There is enough to go around, so long as you'll allow it. You can't hate another and love yourself.

It is not possible. You cannot wish ill on another and not become ill yourself. It is not possible.

Haters should focus on their own selves instead of turning the self-object into a 3rd party. They should accept their bad parts, realizing that it's not so bad after all. That beneath all the fear and shame and guilt, at the core of their being, therein lies an infinite supply of pure love. If only they spend their energy searching and finding the beauty in their own hearts rather than boxing with shadows they can never hit.