Life's
pain invites us into developing ourselves into better, healthier, more
realized people. That is the purpose of all pain. It is when we are in
pain that we feel the most vulnerable and out of control. But, it is in
our pain that we lose ourselves to find ourselves. The three most
important things we need to be healthy are self-love, self-knowledge and
self-control. Life's pain brings with it
the opportunity for knowledge. We can gain knowledge through our
painful times in ways that we could not gain it in any other way because
when we are in pain we question ourselves, we question our choices, we
question our relationships and the people we have chosen. It is easy to
lose focus and resort to trying to control those outside of us to
somehow ease our pain by having them feel responsible to fix it. We
cannot control anyone outside of us and if we try we are not
demonstrating self-control we are being manipulative. Being emotionally
disciplined means keeping your stuff as your stuff. No one can really
give you answers that will make you feel closure. Closure can only come
from within when you decide to get deliberate and take control of
fixing your own grief and your own sadness. Self-control is a way to
emotional mastery. It doesn't mean you don't sob and cry, get angry or
feel fear. It simply means that you have the self-control not to act
these out on another person in an effort to make them responsible for
you. You learn to take care of your own emotional business. This is
maturity. This is self-loving. When you have self-control you begin to
trust yourself and take care of yourself knowing you can get through
whatever it is. The truth is always within you... so stick to you and
love you and all your answers will come. They come in the silence.
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