There is a voice inside you, under the shame that is constantly, eternally, continuously and always saying things like this to yourself:
I love you.
You're so great.
You're such a blessing.
I'm so glad you're here.
You're so funny.
You're doing so good.
Little sentences like this are being repeated constantly in the heart of your true self to yourself. It is like an internal wellspring of love, peace and well being. It is always flowing. It is the real you.
This voice can be covered by shame. It can be covered by lies. That's why it is so important for us to do the heavy work of overcoming our shame and grieving our losses so we can be free to experience the warmth of love that is continually flowing from within. God within. Your higher self loves you.