Friday, March 15, 2013

The Price of Forgiveness is Not Your Dignity

The price of forgiveness is not your dignity. So often we think that we must forgive, and that means we must remove our boundaries and let the forgiven one back in the same spot. That is not forgiveness, that's being a doormat. 
Forgiveness does not preclude having boundaries and protecting yourself. Even when you forgive another person, you always keep yourself intact. You don't ever give up your identity, your intuition, your dignity for anything. 
Yes, forgive, but keep yourself safe from being diminished, devalued or steamrolled in the future. Forgive, but keep your voice. Keep demanding what you need and requiring respectful treatment. Forgive, but don't be afraid to do so at a distance. Jenna Ryan

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