The
price of forgiveness is not your dignity. So often we think that we
must forgive, and that means we must remove our boundaries and let the
forgiven one back in the same spot. That is not forgiveness, that's
being a doormat.
Forgiveness does not
preclude having boundaries and protecting yourself. Even when you
forgive another person, you always keep yourself intact. You don't ever
give up your identity, your intuition, your dignity for anything.
Yes,
forgive, but keep yourself safe from being diminished, devalued or
steamrolled in the future. Forgive, but keep your voice. Keep demanding
what you need and requiring respectful treatment. Forgive, but don't be
afraid to do so at a distance. Jenna Ryan
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