What You Feel is What You Are

Feelings are shunned in the world today. A person who shares his or her feelings is considered "weak" or "emotional." It seems that we've been conditioned to believe that feelings are a bad, and stuffing our feelings is a sign of strength. Anger especially is an emotion that is thwarted, especially in women. The fact is that anger is a signal to help know when you're being treated wrongly. Emotions are not bad; your feelings and emotions are the very life force inside of you that tells you who you are. Your feelings give you direction.

Your feelings are your gut. Your essence. Your life force. Your feelings are tools for helping you to negotiate life. Physiologically, feelings are energy that trigger your brain to release hormones for helping you first of all, survive, and then to thrive and achieve your life's pursuits.

If someone has a problem with the way you share your feelings, then they may have a problem with getting close and being intimate. They could have a personality disorder that causes them to see others are tools for their own use, rather than individuals with their own feelings, wants, needs and desires. If someone tells you that you are too "emotional," beware. That person likely wants to control you to be whatever he or she needs you to be, whether that is what you really are or not. You owe it to yourself to be true to yourself--no matter who agrees.

"There is nothing you can learn, nothing that can heal you more than your being what you are.” Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo