Haters: Boxing with Shadows
#psychology #philosophy #haters
I
think haters are haters because they cannot see the truth. They don't
realize the beauty of who they are. They cannot tolerate their own
shadows, their own perceived badness, so they project their negative
attributes onto others, releasing the tension they cannot bare. They
point to others and aggressively attack them with intention to harm.
Their goal is to inoculate their victims with fear, to maintain
equality, regulate their emotions, exert control over their environment
and boost their own self esteem--however tenuous.
It's true what
Carl Gustav Jung said, “Everything that irritates us about others can
lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” And everything that others
are irritated about can lead us to a better understanding of them too.
The things that others are irritated about give insight into their
hearts and minds, telling of their level of personal enlightenment,
growth and maturity.
We're all at different places. Some choose
to step out of the transaction; to live in real-time, facing reality
with the accompanying pain, and reigning over their own cognitive bias.
Courageous souls in the midst of overcoming weaknesses, embracing the
obstacles, on the path to finding the beauty of truth that lies like
buried treasure beneath their own defenses.
Others stay on the
lower plane of finger pointing, fault-finding, with an outer-locus of
control, missing the milestones of growth until they whither like a
rosebud failing to bloom.
And that is, growth. Growth to Love.
And I believe we are all growing, if we allow it; to a greater place of
love and acceptance of ourselves and others. I believe love is the
ultimate force in the universe, the force that holds it all together.
Any time we feel need to lash out at others or downgrade another person,
it seems to me a diversion, or distraction from the true essence of
love. Our true purpose on this earth is to learn how to let love flow
purely through us.
#philosophy
It
is the blocking of love that harms us. It is the denial of reality that
leads to pain. Focusing outwardly is ground warfare. Rising above the
fleshly antics of the desperate ego's attempt to gain approval is the
road less traveled. Using our cerebral cortex to rise above our
instinctive lower-brain leads to maturity, individuation and inner
peace.
We must learn to love the beauty in others, the truth in
others, authenticity. We must support one another as we reach for the
understanding of truth and love. It is an illusion that we are separate.
We're all connected, joined in myriad ways--locked for better or
worse--on this planet together. We need each other.
We must fight
the battle in our own hearts against jealousy and envy of the good
fortune of others, because, it is your own heart that either allows or
repels the blessing in your own life. There is enough to go around, so
long as you'll allow it. You can't hate another and love yourself.
It is not possible. You cannot wish ill on another and not become ill yourself. It is not possible.
Haters
should focus on their own selves instead of turning the self-object
into a 3rd party. They should accept their bad parts, realizing that
it's not so bad after all. That beneath all the fear and shame and
guilt, at the core of their being, therein lies an infinite supply of
pure love. If only they spend their energy searching and finding the
beauty in their own hearts rather than boxing with shadows they can
never hit.
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