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Thursday, November 25, 2021
Wednesday, November 24, 2021
Sunday, November 7, 2021
How to Deal with Hater Raids and Cancel Vultures and Woke Mobs in 2021
I am working on a process for dealing with Haters in the media, social media and in real life. Haters are people who disagree with you, don't like you, are offended by you, and they are trying with all their power to distract you and to cause you to doubt yourself. A hater wants you to give up, go away and vanish. A hater wants to crush you to a powder. The more you shine, the more the hater wants to stomp out your light. The hater is filled with envy, bitterness, resentment and likely misinformation about who you are and what you do.
Think of an online hater as a stalker. Haters ARE stalkers and they are harassing you, and potentially harming your business. Unfortunately, due to the current political climate, the internet is becoming increasingly hostile. Haters are a fact of life when you are famous, infamous, creative, or doing anything outside-of-the-box.
The goal of the hater is to stop you, so your goal in dealing with haters is to NOT let them stop you, distract you or cause you to doubt yourself. Haters may also want you to conform to their way of thinking, feeling and believing about the world. Many haters are adverse to independent thought. Whatever the motivation of the hater, the same rules apply. Following is a list I'm creating for dealing with haters day-to-day on social media.
This list may become more important as the communist-style social ranking system is implemented in the United States and throughout the world. This social ranking system will grant haters more power than ever to destroy your reputation, your business and your peace. People who are wise will realize that you are special if you are being attacked by haters. It is a compliment--albeit a very annoying compliment--to be attacked relentlessly by haters. If haters hate you, it means you are doing something right.
- Never, ever, ever respond to haters unless they have a legitimate concern about your work.
- Do not fight with haters on any platform (new rule) I know it's difficult, but stick to this.
- Do have united front. Do not answer haters without connecting with me and we will be creating
a united narrative that we want to distribute on my terms. - Do not let haters distract you or take you off track, or keep you from producing your shows, music, content and message.
- Do not perform for haters in any way shape or form.
- Do not create content for haters.
- Ignore haters, give them the silent treatment, go NO CONTACT with haters.
- Act like they do not exist.
- Mentally reframe hatred from people on the internet. Take all hate as a compliment and use it to increase your reach and gain notoriety.
- If you are getting a ton of hate, this means you are doing something right.
https://www.notsalmon.com/2015/03/21/why-you-have-haters/
Saturday, November 6, 2021
Web Kindness.org
I'm creating a new non-profit organization called "WebKindness.org" that will be up and running as soon as my programmer completes it. This website will be dedicated to educating people about bullying, smear campaigns and manipulative web content.
This blog post will contain my tweets at my new Twitter account, http://Twitter.com/KindnessSeb
Tweets
Since I've been brutally attacked online, I have learned to use discernment when reading info. Anything that insults another person directly for superficial characteristics shows me it's a smear and the content is suspect.
Jenna Ryan
#smearcampaigns #webkindness
Always get the whole story before making a judgment about another person. Not everything on the web is true. Some stuff is posted to inflame you and make you hate another person. It's called a smear campaign. Don't fall for it. #smearcampaign #webkindness
"SMEAR LANGUAGE - Language that is used to disparage another person for their thoughts and opinions in effort to make others think they are less-than-human and less than they are. Smear language is objectification of another person and is manipulation & bullying."` - Jenna Ryan
Monday, October 18, 2021
Sunday, July 18, 2021
Thursday, March 11, 2021
Holding Onto Your Truth when People Don't Approve of You
We all crave approval. We all want to be a part of a group. We want to feel as though we belong, and that we're loved and appreciated. It's natural to desire approval. The problem occurs when your identity is wrapped in what people outside of yourself think about you or your actions. It's important to stand your ground and maintain your personal integrity regardless of what others think of you or their perceptions of you.
There are times when people, family members or groups of people try to label you and degrade you and shower you with disapproval. This may make you feel ostracized. It may make you feel unloved, unappreciated, and unsupported, especially if the people who disapprove of you are vocal about it, spreading lies about you and engaging in smear campaigns to make you look badly. This can really hurt on a deep personal level, especially if you are a people pleaser already.
So the key is to be able to take flack, and to notice negative feedback, but not internalize negative feedback and smear campaigns into your identity. It's important not to take disapproval personally. Everyone has their own opinion and their own values. Sometimes your values will clash. Sometimes people will lie about you and smear you to others, and those people will believe everything they hear without knowing anything factual about the situation.
People may formulate negative opinions about you based on the gaslighting of other people, who try to paint you in a negative light by gossiping about you constantly. You cannot get people who believe lies about you or who have a bad opinion of you, or who are envious of you to like you. No matter what you do, people who are not on your side are never going to see the light through you pleasing them. You cannot prove yourself to people who are committed to having a bad opinion of you.
So what can you do when you stand your ground and others disapprove? The best thing you can do is support yourself and draw near to people who are supportive of you. Not everyone is going to like you, and that is okay. Not everyone will have your passion, and that is okay. Not everyone will have your drive and determination, and that is okay. You are who you are no matter what anyone else says. Stay true to who you are and take feedback with a grain of salt if it is hateful, defamatory and false. You are beautiful and no one can take that away.
Lot's of people will not approve of you if you are amazing; they may have reason to hate you for your good qualities. If that is the case, or if they're angry and nasty, then let them go. Or as the Bible says, "shake the dust off your feet". Open your heart to those you love and the things you love and continue to thrive where you are. Stay true to your values and give yourself room to make mistakes. No one is perfect, and we all have the right to be who we are in this world.
Thursday, February 25, 2021
Wednesday, February 24, 2021
How to Handle Being Brushed Off By People Who Don't Approve of You
There may be times in your life where you're brushed off, dismissed, ignored by people who you feel do not approve of you for one reason or the other. This can create a bit of cognitive dissonance, whether you're a people pleaser or not. It feels like you're being ostracized when a person acts rejecting towards you. and doesn't treat you with open arms and kindness.
If you feel like you're guilty of doing something wrong--or you feel like that person thinks you've done something wrong, you may take their actions personally.You may feel a sense of shame for being who you are; you may feel compelled to prove yourself to that person and try to earn their respect.
Stop right there. You cannot earn anyone's respect if they've already made up their mind about you. It's impossible. You cannot change someone's opinion of you if they choose to see you in a negative light. Trying to change their mind digs a deeper hole for you. Trying to change their mind makes you act in ways that make them one-up and you one-down. Balance is not found in a relationship where you're trying to prove yourself.
If you find yourself tempted to try to prove yourself to another person, take a step back. Think about it. This person has an opinion of you based on their own perception, which has nothing to do with who you are as a person. If that person cannot see you objectively, without the imprint of their own projections, then that is not your problem. At the end of the day, you are who you are--a beautiful person--and you are worthy of love and respect.
You have to know that from within and expect it from others, no matter what the media, social media, your neighbors or haters say about you. You have to know that you are a person of integrity, honor and value and that you do not have to convince a single soul that you are worthy.
If someone chooses to see you as beneath them for whatever reason, save your breath trying to show them otherwise. You will be wasting your time. They are the ones having a problem in their viewpoint. You are still you and you can still shine and you are still amazing regardless of anyone else's opinion. At the end of the day, people who treat you poorly aren't worth proving yourself to anyway.
Say goodbye to proving yourself to others. You are worthy just as you are; even if Joe Blow thinks you suck. He doesn't know you, and ultimately, he doesn't have anything to do with your life. Live your life the best you can. Keep progressing and putting out good into the world.
Points to keep in mind:
- Other people's opinions do not define you in any way.
- You can achieve your goals and dreams without the approval of others.
- Disapproval from another person is their problem, not yours.
- If someone doesn't approve of you, it's not your fault--don't take it personally.
Don't let people who disapprove of you stop you.
You approve of you and that's all that matters.
Saturday, February 6, 2021
Jenna Ryan is Not a Terrorist
From "Free Jenna Ryan"
Jenna Ryan is raising money for her legal defense. She was at the Capitol on Jan. 6th 2021 to peacefully protest against election fraud. She did not commit violence, but rather was praising the Name of Jesus at the gates of the powerhouse of the world. The media is smearing her without due process.
Jenna is not living in fear, but is filled with peace and joy. God is blessing her with courage and strength, hope and resolve. Your prayers are appreciated, needed and requested.
God is good and He will supply all our needs according to His riches and glory. Philipians 4:19 Thank you for your contribution and I pray that God will richly bless you in your giving. IN JESUS NAME. Amen.
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Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when others revile you and persecute you and utter all kinds of evil against you falsely on my account. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward is great in heaven, for so they persecuted the prophets who were before you. Matthew 5:10, 12
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