Showing posts with label child development. Show all posts
Showing posts with label child development. Show all posts
Saturday, March 4, 2017
Thursday, April 30, 2015
The Drama Triangle
Here is the Drama Triangle which is a diagram of unhealthy, dysfunctional family dynamics.
The Drama Triangle The Three Rolls of Victimhood
A game is an ongoing conversation between two people that ends with bad feelings for at least one of the participants.
Every person has a favourite game that they play out of awareness. The
person will play the game repeatedly with different people and in
different circumstances but the pattern will always be the same; the
person will always end up with the same feeling at the end of the game.
Games are played from the positions of Rescuer, Victim or Persecutor.
The Drama Triangle The Three Rolls of Victimhood
‘Why does this always happen to me?’ ‘I was only trying to help!’
Does this familiar? If so, then you are in a game.
Games are a substitute for real connection and true intimacy.
Sunday, March 15, 2015
What To Do If I Feel Like Saying I'm Sorry All the Time [SelfLoveU Video Q&A]
Child Abuse Recovery, Validation & Support
Practical Advice for Loving Yourself More
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Saturday, March 14, 2015
True Self/False Self Playlist
Very good explanation of True Self/False Self.
Notes:
Stefan Molyneux from Free Domain Radio
False Self is part of yourself that has adapted to a threat. It is the "part of you that has adapted to threats but no longer recognizes the adaptation or the threat."
God's disapproval - Threat. Damnation by God to hell.
Spanking, beating, bed without supper
Requires kids to adapt. No greater disparity in power than between parent and child. If parent making threats, child must adapt to those threats. Out of fear, children surrender to abuse.
Begin the process of pretending that a threat is not a threat.
My parents hit me because I was such a mess. Changed threat into a necessary virtue. Adapting themselves to a threat and forgetting adaptation and threat. Conformed to good behavior. Not I conformed to a threat. (Basically, we're lying to ourselves.)
Defense must be 100% if threat 100% - Causes the two to merge. Defense of immorality arises deep defense. Very hard to dislodge. Once the True Self
Defenses so merged with attacker. Abuser internalize. Inner child cannot be recovered. Defense is terminal to True Self. Our defenses hardened unless we work to break free.
Notes:
Stefan Molyneux from Free Domain Radio
False Self is part of yourself that has adapted to a threat. It is the "part of you that has adapted to threats but no longer recognizes the adaptation or the threat."
God's disapproval - Threat. Damnation by God to hell.
Spanking, beating, bed without supper
Requires kids to adapt. No greater disparity in power than between parent and child. If parent making threats, child must adapt to those threats. Out of fear, children surrender to abuse.
Begin the process of pretending that a threat is not a threat.
My parents hit me because I was such a mess. Changed threat into a necessary virtue. Adapting themselves to a threat and forgetting adaptation and threat. Conformed to good behavior. Not I conformed to a threat. (Basically, we're lying to ourselves.)
Defense must be 100% if threat 100% - Causes the two to merge. Defense of immorality arises deep defense. Very hard to dislodge. Once the True Self
Defenses so merged with attacker. Abuser internalize. Inner child cannot be recovered. Defense is terminal to True Self. Our defenses hardened unless we work to break free.
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