True Self/False Self Playlist

Very good explanation of True Self/False Self.

Notes:

Stefan Molyneux from Free Domain Radio
False Self is part of yourself that has adapted to a threat. It is the "part of you that has adapted to threats but no longer recognizes the adaptation or the threat."

God's disapproval - Threat. Damnation by God to hell.

Spanking, beating, bed without supper

Requires kids to adapt. No greater disparity in power than between parent and child. If parent making threats, child must adapt to those threats. Out of fear, children surrender to abuse.

Begin the process of pretending that a threat is not a threat.

My parents hit me because I was such a mess. Changed threat into a necessary virtue. Adapting themselves to a threat and forgetting adaptation and threat. Conformed to good behavior. Not I conformed to a threat. (Basically, we're lying to ourselves.) 

Defense must be 100% if threat 100% - Causes the two to merge. Defense of immorality arises deep defense. Very hard to dislodge. Once the True Self 

Defenses so merged with attacker. Abuser internalize. Inner child cannot be recovered. Defense is terminal to True Self.  Our defenses hardened unless we work to break free.







 

Are You Invisible?

Are you invisible? Being invisible is when you don't know who you are, you don't know how you feel, and you don't know what's real. An invisible person has no true, defined identity, he or she has no inkling of their human rights or how to assert those rights in relationships...If this is you, I know how you feel. It is a very painful way to live. Not only are you invisible to others, most importantly, you are invisible to yourself. Whatever it takes you must find yourself--find your truth. You are beautiful. You are love. You are light.

Some of us were conditioned to become invisible so as not to be rejected... to make our presence (which we perceive to be a burden) easier on those around us. We think that we will die if we aren't accepted and therefore we hide our true selves to stay alive. It's literally a matter of life and death for a child to be accepted. If a child is not loved, the child will die--that means any measure must be taken to get love, even an ounce of it, to keep growing up. We sacrifice our existence so as not to lose the love of others. That child never really grows up, but stays inside, stays invisible, hiding the truth of who we are from anyone who may not approve and may not love us. What we don't realize, and what we have to teach our inner child is that WE WILL NOT DIE. We are big people now and we have the resources we need to take care of ourselves in the event we are rejected. We have the power we need to speak our minds and live our truth--we must only realize this.

Becoming invisible is also a way to manipulate people to love you. It's not noble as it may seem on first glance. It's actually manipulation. It says, "I know you won't like who I really am so I'm going to pretend to be someone I'm not so that you'll like me." Eventually you'll get tired of the charade and lash out in anger. It's inevitable. You're not really invisible, you're just pretending to be invisible to manipulate others into accepting that which you do not accept yourself: YOU.

Becoming a person is an inside job. You have what it takes to come to life, to live your truth and to express yourself without shame and without holding back. Start practicing today. Say no more often to what you don't want, express your truth, don't go along with others just to make them happy. Learn to listen to your heart and be who you really are. It's worth it!!!