Here is the Drama Triangle which is a diagram of unhealthy, dysfunctional family dynamics.
The Drama Triangle The Three Rolls of Victimhood
‘Why does this always happen to me?’ ‘I was only trying to help!’
Does this familiar? If so, then you are in a game.
A game is an ongoing conversation between two people that ends with bad feelings for at least one of the participants.
Every person has a favourite game that they play out of awareness. The
person will play the game repeatedly with different people and in
different circumstances but the pattern will always be the same; the
person will always end up with the same feeling at the end of the game.
Games are played from the positions of Rescuer, Victim or Persecutor.
Games are a substitute for real connection and true intimacy.