There may be times in your life where you're brushed off, dismissed, ignored by people who you feel do not approve of you for one reason or the other. This can create a bit of cognitive dissonance, whether you're a people pleaser or not. It feels like you're being ostracized when a person acts rejecting towards you. and doesn't treat you with open arms and kindness.
If you feel like you're guilty of doing something wrong--or you feel like that person thinks you've done something wrong, you may take their actions personally.You may feel a sense of shame for being who you are; you may feel compelled to prove yourself to that person and try to earn their respect.
Stop right there. You cannot earn anyone's respect if they've already made up their mind about you. It's impossible. You cannot change someone's opinion of you if they choose to see you in a negative light. Trying to change their mind digs a deeper hole for you. Trying to change their mind makes you act in ways that make them one-up and you one-down. Balance is not found in a relationship where you're trying to prove yourself.
If you find yourself tempted to try to prove yourself to another person, take a step back. Think about it. This person has an opinion of you based on their own perception, which has nothing to do with who you are as a person. If that person cannot see you objectively, without the imprint of their own projections, then that is not your problem. At the end of the day, you are who you are--a beautiful person--and you are worthy of love and respect.
You have to know that from within and expect it from others, no matter what the media, social media, your neighbors or haters say about you. You have to know that you are a person of integrity, honor and value and that you do not have to convince a single soul that you are worthy.
If someone chooses to see you as beneath them for whatever reason, save your breath trying to show them otherwise. You will be wasting your time. They are the ones having a problem in their viewpoint. You are still you and you can still shine and you are still amazing regardless of anyone else's opinion. At the end of the day, people who treat you poorly aren't worth proving yourself to anyway.
Say goodbye to proving yourself to others. You are worthy just as you are; even if Joe Blow thinks you suck. He doesn't know you, and ultimately, he doesn't have anything to do with your life. Live your life the best you can. Keep progressing and putting out good into the world.
Points to keep in mind:
- Other people's opinions do not define you in any way.
- You can achieve your goals and dreams without the approval of others.
- Disapproval from another person is their problem, not yours.
- If someone doesn't approve of you, it's not your fault--don't take it personally.
Don't let people who disapprove of you stop you.
You approve of you and that's all that matters.
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