Dumb Things That Offend the Narcissist

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• A topic that you want to discuss.
• You having rights. 
• You feeling confident.
• You feeling confident to determine what topics to discuss in your relationship.
• You looking good.
• Your life being great. 
• You talking about your accomplishments.
• You talking about what is important to you.
• You discussing things you like such as art, intellectual pursuits, your travels.  
• You discussing your emotions.
• You sharing details of your life.
• You having close relationships with others.
• You enjoying your life. 
• The way you hold your paint brush.
• The way you cook dinner. 
• The way you dress.
• The way your sweatshirt has big giant lips on it.
• The way you talk about a certain issue.
• The way you're on your own path or course. 
• The way you achieve at work with accolades and promotions. 
• The way you perceive their manipulative actions as negative.
• You being a separate person with separate needs.
• You needing anything from them emotionally.
• You calling them out on their bad behaviors. 
• When you let them know you don't like something they do.
• The way you live your life.
• Your choice of religion.
• Your choice of friends.
• Your choice of jobs, careers, education. 
• Your need for love, guidance, support. 
• Your happiness. 
• Your fulfillment.
• Your self focus.  
• You not buying into their agenda of whatever or whomever THEY think you should be. 

Depending on the type of narcissist you are involved with, this blood-sucking vampire may behave or react in the following ways to your "offense."

• Silent treatment.
• Gaslighting - Telling you that reality is something that it's not. 
• Acting emotional, like you've just said the most hurtful thing ever when you said nothing negative to them at all. 
• Raging 
• Stonewalling 
• Stealing your emotional mojo / focus. 
• Making outrageous accusations. 
• Give you a guilt trip.
• Divert the argument.
• Try to make you feel wrong or bad or ashamed. 
• Take the side of someone who is against you.
• Accuse you of doing them harm where no harm was done or intended. 
• Playing the victim. 
• Belittle you.
• Refuse to acknowledge your ideas, or whatever you're discussing.
• Act as though what you're saying is trivial.
• Act as though what you're saying is disgusting, ridiculous and offensive. 
• Monologues 
• Attacking you.
• Attacking others who have the same attributes as you.
• Acting like they don't understand and need endless clarification.
• Repetitive negative conversation patterns that don't do you any good. 
• Asking you for something, help, emotional support.
• Ranting and raving
• Bringing up negative topics. 
• Acting out, going on a tailspin, being a hot mess. 
• Telling you what to talk about.
• Shaming you for being yourself. 
• Reminding you of a past mistake when you're at a high point.
• Reminding you of a past mistake when you're at a low point.
• Ignoring you.
• Being distracted while you're talking.
• Failing to validate your reality by active listening. 
• Refusing to meet your needs.
• Sulking.

There are many more things to add to both of these lists. Can you think of more??? 

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