Toxic shame is the result of childhood abuse in the most important formative years, between the ages of 0 to 7. Toxic shame is the residue o...

Shame falls off in stages, like literal skin being shed. It reminds me of the coating on an m&m that starts cracking when you become ...

The narc appeals to the false self, but cuts you at the true self. They can only get a wounded person, a person with a wounded, shame-cove...

Dear Jenna,  I've been in a relationship with a person who has NPD. At first I didn't know about NPD or if he had it but I observ...

It is possible for someone to BUILD YOU UP, yet invalidate your existence at the same time. This occurs when someone you trust, someone yo...

Invalidation is damaging to the soul of the one being invalidated. Abused individuals are conditioned from childhood to believe that their o...

One of the big wake-up calls I had was about the concept of INVALIDATION. I never understood it before, but I found, as I started coming o...