tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post4098900362123328079..comments2024-02-13T13:42:25.470-08:00Comments on Self Love U: How to Set A Boundary With Someone Who Ignores YouUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-38207686503097257282016-05-13T06:19:10.325-07:002016-05-13T06:19:10.325-07:00Wonderful postWonderful postUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15029462312354959322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-50431817889214261412016-05-10T16:02:25.590-07:002016-05-10T16:02:25.590-07:00Lots of good input here, in the comments as well a...Lots of good input here, in the comments as well as the article. It's finally time for me to reassess my life. My husband has been doing this to me 2-3 times a year for the past 43 years. It doesn't sound like that often, but it corrodes my soul more each time. I know for a fact that I've never EVER done anything to deserve it, he just picks something he thinks I did (I usually didn't) and blows it up so that he can have the pleasure of doing this to me. It's cruel. As human beings, being shunned hurts--that's probably why groups of people use it as a form of punishment, right? Well let me tell ya, it's effective. Thank you everyone for helping me see that I'm not crazy or different. Toodleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07803288850756556672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-59940780179996531262016-05-07T05:49:17.433-07:002016-05-07T05:49:17.433-07:00Don't expect people to make u happy look aft...Don't expect people to make u happy look after yourself first and foremost never let anyone bother u life's to shortAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06601532929958782960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-2139933263903704032016-05-07T05:49:15.360-07:002016-05-07T05:49:15.360-07:00Don't expect people to make u happy look aft...Don't expect people to make u happy look after yourself first and foremost never let anyone bother u life's to shortAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06601532929958782960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-32032377385431768552016-04-26T16:33:04.371-07:002016-04-26T16:33:04.371-07:00There is a BIG difference between ignoring someone...There is a BIG difference between ignoring someone and setting boundaries with them. When someone crosses your boundaries you do need to say enough. Tell them you do not want to engage with them anymore and then do not respond when they don't respect your NO! That is not the controlling ignoring we are talking about here. purejoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11537486344131488787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-30830865841895511772016-04-26T11:49:28.615-07:002016-04-26T11:49:28.615-07:00What would the protocol be if the person you are t...What would the protocol be if the person you are trying to ignore is a psychopath, seriously need an answer, this person keeps trying to make it seem like my fault I'm not responding! I feel threatened and she's supposed to be my best friend! She keeps asking for me to put her before my husband and children, that's a serious line crosser, there have been a hundred instances I can give to support this including threatening emails, texts and fb messages. I'm not asking to be criticized just need honest advice please.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03976028543420151712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-34318252386110634482016-04-26T06:41:13.415-07:002016-04-26T06:41:13.415-07:00I try to be passive as long as I can. If a person ...I try to be passive as long as I can. If a person ignoring you is not so important such as fellow worker then let it go. I think if I talked with that person about how I feel, do you think he/she befriend me? I am not important to that person so why I give importance. Keep distance and find good people.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02987816844988084431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-68265030058136768452016-04-25T11:31:24.906-07:002016-04-25T11:31:24.906-07:00thank you so much this is a great help to methank you so much this is a great help to mestuffed headhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100613016208211579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-82436897371472120392016-04-22T05:45:05.360-07:002016-04-22T05:45:05.360-07:00Wow it must have really gotten to you for you to r...Wow it must have really gotten to you for you to react like that but I agree it was pretty childish we have all done things we regret in life and this will be one for you but for her to react to you means that there are feelings between the both of you. Maybe not very nice ones at the moment. You need to take the high road and say you are sorry. You don't need to bare your soul just apologise for being innapropriate and leave it at that. She will then have the opportunity to react if she wishes and I hope for your sake that she does in a polite manner and maybe you can sort out whatever it is that happened between you. An apology is always best when you have made a mistake especially one made in public. I wish you the best and hope whatever it is you can feel better about being around her. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08195278506381117006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-25522376174265411762016-04-17T11:58:34.845-07:002016-04-17T11:58:34.845-07:00Well you start by learning to filter that mouth of...Well you start by learning to filter that mouth of yours at all times. I can tell you are sorry you yelled at her, but once words are spoken you can never, ever take them back. <br /><br />The article seems to indicate "it's not your fault”, when in reality it may or may not be. But once you've pulled a stunt such as you did, you really need to take a quiet break to examine your own behavior, thinking through whether or not you might be responsible. Perhaps she saw this hostility in you and realised it's not a relationship she wants. Her response to you would indicate that. If you ever did such a thing to me, there would be no recovering from it. That’s a personal decision I made about verbally abusive relationships.<br /><br />What you don’t do is follow the lead of the garbage you see on those TV reality shows. They show the worst of human interactions and are not a good pattern for your own life. The sleazy entertainment is likely the source of so much bad behavior in society at large. <br /><br />In your situation, she's already out of your life as you put it. It's up to you how you handle the hurt. I'd suggest privately and let it go. Since she is someone you are going to see regularly, you're going to have to apologise for your mouth and have no expectations of reestablishing the relationship. Do it in writing. If the opportunity arises to talk with her, say you are sorry to her and then just be cordial when you do see one another. That's the adult way you handle situations when you have done damage. <br /><br />That said, it does hurt when someone you love deeply, as a friend, lover or family member, is indifferent. But you have no control over another person unless they give it to you. If they are worth knowing, they will not give you any control. How much effort you put into resurrecting a relationship depends on how long the relationship has lasted. You don’t necessarily walk away from a long time relationship. You work at those, but not so you can force things to go your way. <br /><br />Once you realise they are indifferent and after you have tried a rational approach to understand why (AND have not crossed that line that you crossed), and still the relationship languishes, you eventually have to move on and leave that relationship behind. But be sure you learn from it. That’s the value in this article. Look at the lists. Ruafoodiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15342177190821927490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-30822402176894415372016-04-15T14:11:07.922-07:002016-04-15T14:11:07.922-07:00Hi I was very friendly with someone I thought enjo...Hi I was very friendly with someone I thought enjoyed my company and I was very open with her about everything and she me. Its like everything I told her about me she felt the same ...I said to her when I don't hear from someone for days/weeks I feel that they no longer like me....to that she said I feel the same. However all of a sudden she stopped ringing me and then walked straight past me when I didn't phone either. I felt sometimes that I was talking to me as everything I felt she felt too I found it quite annoying. However it really got to me after she walked past me with her head in the air yesterday and I couldn't believe I shouted out to her Stupid Bitch ...and without her looking at me said you too......how can I cope in an adult way with someone who I no longer want in my life who I may see regularly ...so it doesn't bother me without feeling hurt and want to pass a remark to her...stuffed headhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03100613016208211579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-88389863034303870852016-04-11T17:23:49.235-07:002016-04-11T17:23:49.235-07:00This was a wonderful article. I found it very help...This was a wonderful article. I found it very helpful! Thank you for this wonderful advice! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179271796970823324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-29977840730301650642016-04-10T13:24:59.221-07:002016-04-10T13:24:59.221-07:00I have this friend with whom i have been open abo...I have this friend with whom i have been open about how much I like her and what our f'ship means to me. I have also tole her number of times how much it upsets me when she does not talk to me. I have been doing everything to make our f'ship work. However, there has been no attempts from her end as yet. Now i completely relate to this article. I guess she has been manipulating me since ive always been loud about how much i care and like her. She ignores me like i do not exist and very well knows how much it pains me if she does that. I confronted her many a times but she repeats which make me think if im really worth this f'ship. But thanks for this article, i think i have to move on, i think she is game player and i need to play smarter.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12829667825007304244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-141279194605793562016-04-10T13:15:26.774-07:002016-04-10T13:15:26.774-07:00Lovely Article. Loved itLovely Article. Loved itAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12829667825007304244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-9183394203415336222016-04-06T11:38:40.328-07:002016-04-06T11:38:40.328-07:00I agree with all the other comments above, thank y...I agree with all the other comments above, thank you, to you all. I also think it's gutless and manipulative, and they are not playing fairly, at all. No one likes being ignored, no-one. If they were ignored they also would not like it. It's cowardly and I think sometimes there lack of openness about what's really going on, they ignore, because they don't really want to be forthcoming, as they may fear that there reasoning will not stand up under scrutiny. As they had motives or agendas that were not made clear to you. I think they are game players.Shereehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02666893421628755245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-65867615612844237982016-04-03T16:52:13.286-07:002016-04-03T16:52:13.286-07:00I agree and disagree. I think it's a clear sig...I agree and disagree. I think it's a clear sign of disrespect if the lack of response is ongoing--if it's more of a habit or lifestyle for that person to respond to you by ignoring you repeatedly. If it happens from time to time then it I don't think it's a problem. I think it's all about understanding which circumstance is which. Just like if someone was being constantly called all the time by someone, a person would likely conclude it's harassment, if it's overkill. I think a person can apply the same principle if they're being ignored--is it happening to a degree that feels excessive. Tamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00839843596426697149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-89218972332002732852016-03-12T15:44:16.978-08:002016-03-12T15:44:16.978-08:00I really am busy. And now much more at peace not h...I really am busy. And now much more at peace not hoping to have a friendship with those who by their actions want only a superficial acquaintance, if that. purejoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11537486344131488787noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-68273313223261987722016-03-12T11:12:42.601-08:002016-03-12T11:12:42.601-08:00I fully disagree with it not meeting our own needs...I fully disagree with it not meeting our own needs. There's a thing called acquaintance and friendship. Friendship is showing each other you care about one another on a regular basis. By ignoring them they are merely a acquaintance. If you treat your friend like a acquaintance you don't deserve that friend.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10924198877502197412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-68905188108383420732016-02-23T10:22:47.830-08:002016-02-23T10:22:47.830-08:00I LIVE WITH someone who does that to me ALL THE TI...I LIVE WITH someone who does that to me ALL THE TIME.<br /><br />My STEPdaughters do it to me all the time.<br /><br />One day I realized that it's not I who should be feeling ashamed, and I quit trying to engage anybody who DOESN'T KNOW HOW to respond.<br /><br />It's NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT you.<br /><br />Of course, you know to not try ever again with that particular colleague.IBikeNYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11923698042529555349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-77946882162687258292016-02-22T22:33:15.338-08:002016-02-22T22:33:15.338-08:00I thought this article was more about the followin...I thought this article was more about the following scenario: I tried to engage my colleague sitting next to me in a conversation at a staff party. She just looked my way and hear me but just ignored me. I repeated my general questions "How was your day today? Did you have .... ". She just looked at me but past me. Her friend then walked up and engaged her effortlessly. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-26718176240203487862016-02-03T16:45:44.468-08:002016-02-03T16:45:44.468-08:00I invited a niece to a party, she was a no show, n...I invited a niece to a party, she was a no show, nor did she give me the courtesy of a call. She decided to ignore me. This was the icing on the cake with putting up with her nasty remarks at family gatherings through the years. I decided I had enough and blocked her off social media, deleted her phone number and let her know I was not putting up with her bad behavior. 3 years later and I haven't looked back. She sent me an email with a photo of her on my birthday. Maybe she misses me because the rest of her extended family ignores her also. You get what you ask for...Happy Camperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028224162407906108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-42182502576231007112016-02-03T16:45:30.758-08:002016-02-03T16:45:30.758-08:00I would send her a handwritten card. You can'...I would send her a handwritten card. You can't make her respond or feel how you may feel about her. Its time to move on if she refuses to respond. Who would want to be around someone like that anyway?Happy Camperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028224162407906108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-50635577611616927392016-02-03T16:44:15.040-08:002016-02-03T16:44:15.040-08:00I would send her a handwritten card. You can'...I would send her a handwritten card. You can't make her respond or feel how you may feel about her. Its time to move on if she refuses to respond. Who would want to be around someone like that anyway?Happy Camperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028224162407906108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-5857803881592084002016-02-03T16:40:36.877-08:002016-02-03T16:40:36.877-08:00I invited a niece to a party, she was a no show, n...I invited a niece to a party, she was a no show, nor did she give me the courtesy of a call. She decided to ignore me. This was the icing on the cake with putting up with her nasty remarks at family gatherings through the years. I decided I had enough and blocked her off social media, deleted her phone number and let her know I was not putting up with her bad behavior. 3 years later and I haven't looked back. She sent me an email with a photo of her on my birthday. Maybe she misses me because the rest of her extended family ignores her also. You get what you ask for...Happy Camperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16028224162407906108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7454586518743810714.post-60114548921396509232016-02-02T00:21:56.968-08:002016-02-02T00:21:56.968-08:00I had an emotional melt down about a friends commi...I had an emotional melt down about a friends commitment to a group that she is leading. I've said I'm sorry, that I'm still not clear headed and that I don't know what to think about the current situation I find us in. I've said I feel vulnerable right now but want to remain friends. What is making this so painful is that I've texted and there is no response and I'm feeling overwhelmed and in grief, like I am a nothing to her and that this is punishment. I've said sorry and I truly am. How should I take her silence? Does she need space or am I being punished? I just don't know. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15882057598532509988noreply@blogger.com